Life Five Months Married.

We're in the "How's married life?" phase.  I thought a blog would be the best explanation.

Married life.  It's just that.  Jon and I lived together before we exchanged vows so not a lot has changed.  For this I am thankful.  I know this choice isn't for everyone, but it worked for us.  Even my Granny suggested it.  We have families who trust our decisions and didn't push ideas on us.  Some have it a little more difficult.

I cook a little more and my last name is different.  That's about as much change as I want in our relationship.  Neither of us held anything back before we were married.  He knew I was a true Aries, bold and aggressive.  And he follows his Capricorn suit, patient and ambitious.  I'm really not an astrologist, but I can't disagree with a lot of it.

Obviously when you're marrying someone families play a large role, but one of the things Father Bright told us in our pre-marital session was, "You are marrying each other, not your families."  For whatever reason this stuck with me.  It was also kind of a relief.  Not in a cruel way, but it makes a lot of sense.  You spend time with this one person who has invested their time in getting to know you.  They didn't do all the hard work for a multitude of others; if someone wants to be in a committed relationship with you, it's their responsibility to put in the work.  Relationships are big.  Marriage is huge.  Nobody just earns the hierarchical position in some one's life because of affiliation.   And I think it's illegal to exchange vows with multiple people at the same time anyway.  You exchange vows with one person.  Just one.  Just once.  This is serious business, y'all.

If not for weddings I'm not sure a lot of women would choose to get married.  A lot just want that one moment, that spotlight.  Guys get married because they want you, which is probably why a lot of them are game for visiting the courthouse to accomplish this, I know Jon would've been fine with it.  There's a reason divorce rates are up and it's not because weddings are down.  Did you know they changed the etiquette on second weddings to make them more acceptable to be just as big as the first?  I'm not opposed to anyone who wants a large event, but to change the etiquette is saying that the original idea is now antique.  The idea of marriage shouldn't be vintage.  I don't disagree with divorce, I disagree with poor judgment on what marriage is. 

These are my opinions, they don't fit everyone, nor should they.

So, married life?  It's really good.  I have no complaints.  We've found our match and life is even sweeter.

"Blood makes you related, loyalty makes you family."